If You Want Real Love, There’s a Better Place To Look for It Than The Dating Apps
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People often mistake lust with love.
Just because they swipe right on you and love-bomb you, that doesn't always mean they have the best intention and will stick around for the long run.
So hold your horses just yet.
Looking for real love through online dating isn't as easy as you think. There are lots of hype around it indeed. More and more people are now highly invested and ready to jump into the pool.
But what comes easy and exciting could be your nightmare if you don't know what you sign up for in the first place. Of course, this isn't to say you shouldn't give it a try. Do it. No one's stopping you.
With that being said, I hope you also know the consequences. It's definitely not butterflies and roses. People are getting scammed, lied to, ghosted, and other endless heartbreaks that they don't deserve.
Single friends around me are getting tired of the game that people in dating apps play. So when they ask me if there are better places to look for real love, here's my answer.
Looking for the "one" in real life is an old concept, but it's not dead yet
"Oh, that's so 90s, no one does it anymore" — I heard one of my friends comment on the idea of looking for love in person.
It's indeed such an old concept compared to nowadays trends where everybody seems to invest their time and energy on anything online. If you could get famous online, there's no way you can't find your soulmate online, too, right?
Well, you can.
But the chance isn't high. Let's be honest, people mostly use dating apps for hookups. If you're looking for someone who is ready and wants to be serious, you need to experience and go through unpleasant experiences first.
You won't get it in your first shot at swiping left. That's why it's important to keep your heart open for any real-life experience that might come your way. Avoid expecting too much in the dating apps that you refuse to meet up and get to know someone in person.
If you're an introvert, it's always best to start with a hobby and find community around it. I'm an introvert myself, and I used to go to book clubs and make new friends (some of them have become my ex-crushes).
So give it a try. In the end, you've got nothing to lose.
If you find no luck, maybe it's time to get some help
Some people have a hard time realizing that they indeed need help, especially when it comes to their love life. As if it's something they should be ashamed of.
Firstly, being single and trying your best to look for real love isn't lame. It shows you're still human and want a deeper connection with someone other than yourself.
That's why it's never wrong or bad to ask for help. If you think you have childhood issues that aren't resolved yet, that's always affecting the way you date in a negative way, then find a therapist.
One of the best things I did in 2021 was seek help from the profession for my codependency problem caused by my childhood trauma. I wouldn't figure it out and turn my love life into a much better mental state if it's not for those therapy sessions.
So do yourself a favor to fix that problem first before you go all in searching for love.
And what if you don't have those problems and are fully ready now? The better place than dating apps I could find is trying out matchmaking. There are many of them now. The good thing about it is that you can find someone who's as serious as you in looking for a partner.
You have a higher chance of matchmaking. No more wasting time on people that want a night one stand and forget your name the next day.
Another perk is that you don't have to deal with those mind games people pull in the dating apps. You can finally find someone who wants to connect and get to know you in person.
So don't be afraid to seek help from professionals because you deserve a great love life too.
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